Children & Young People

It is very common for abusers to threaten women that if they leave or tell anyone about the abuse their children will be taken away. This is very unlikely. If you decide to leave home and you want the children to carry on living with you, it is better if you can take them with you when you leave. If you are concerned about your children, it is best to seek legal advice.

Children will react in different ways to growing up in a home with an abusive person. They may be affected by the tensions or witnessing arguments or assaults. They may think they are to blame or feel insecure, frightened, alone or confused. They may be isolated or embarassed in front of friends and may feel resentment towards you or feel helpless. There are many different responses and this is by no means an exhaustive list. Children should be told that abuse is wrong and that it does not solve problems.

You may want help with supporting your child if they tell you that they too have been abused. You should take this seriously. Your child could contact Childline or you may wish to contact Social Services, the police or your GP/ health visitor.  Children can also use The Hideout, a website designed specifically for children living with domestic abuse.

The Hide Out - www.thehideout.org.uk

Respect Not Fear - Website for Young People - www.respectnotfear.co.uk